Love....
Love is the sweetest dream and yet the most beautiful nightmare....Everything starts sweet and ends bitter....
For me, love needs sexual contact, sexual contact is one of the important elements in maintaining a relationship...It ain't the most important element,though...Some people might just think that it's not a big deal at all, and that they totally ignore it. Sexual contacts bring a relationship to another higher level of intimacy between couples, which soul contacts can never do. It does fade away if there's no sexual contact involved. Imagine, if you are just to chat with your lover day and night, without having a sense that sexual contact is important too,and you totally ignore it, do you think it'll last long? I doubt so, if you really are so desperate to look for people to chat with but with no sexual contacts involved, yeah, why not you just look for normal friends with whom you can chat till the morning light? I believe you guys won't kiss each other? hold hands and so on? Would you?
Well, talk about soul contact, I cannot say that this is not listed as one of the important elements, because to me, we need a little understanding, not whole....When you get to understand every single part of one another, not just the merits that lie within the persons you are dealing with will appear, even the darkest sides or the ugliest sides that hide deeply within the persons will just show up, whether you wanna let it show or not, or even whether intentionally or unintentionally. Well, understand when it's necessary, avoid it when it's necessary too...Because truths aren't all the times pleasant to all the people who are concerned with. Why know it when you have the choice not to?
Next, about the popular issue "Do unto others like you want others to do unto you"....vice versa-ly, if you do not wish others to do something that you don't like to you, then shall you not do things people don't like to them. For instance, you don't like to be disturbed while you are having a sound sleep, so shall you not disturb others while they are in their sleep, but this is only applicable when both parties share the common interests or thoughts. Very obviously, the main idea of this is to remind people that we shall not be selfish, only center ourselves. We should always look from other sides of the matter. If you seek to be cared, first you seek to care.
Related to the issue mentioned above, what if none of the parties share the common thoughts?For example, you hate to be disturbed( in a sleep), but does that means others think the same too? I doubt so, from my point of view, and as I am, I think that one wouldn't mind to be awaken up by his or her lover, whether to chat or to meet up. Well, of course everyone thinks differently....I believe a lover is someone who will always be there for you no matter what happens and will never bother how troublesome it could ever be. In this case, when both parties do not share the interests in common, the only thing that they can do is compromise.
Speaking of compromising, which we will learn about give and take. You want somebody to care about you, first you must care about others without thinking of what you will get from doing so. Give without calculating how much "profits" you will gain, Receive without calculating how much the "products and services" are worth of. This is the only way to maintain a relationship.
If you fail to secure a relationship, you guys have to work it out yourselves. You are the only one who can pick it up again,not anyone else. One-way-communication never works for a couple, neither does one-way-efforts help.
That's all for today~
Thank you.
With love,
Pen off with,
Destiny's devil a.k.a Sin Wei
For me, love needs sexual contact, sexual contact is one of the important elements in maintaining a relationship...It ain't the most important element,though...Some people might just think that it's not a big deal at all, and that they totally ignore it. Sexual contacts bring a relationship to another higher level of intimacy between couples, which soul contacts can never do. It does fade away if there's no sexual contact involved. Imagine, if you are just to chat with your lover day and night, without having a sense that sexual contact is important too,and you totally ignore it, do you think it'll last long? I doubt so, if you really are so desperate to look for people to chat with but with no sexual contacts involved, yeah, why not you just look for normal friends with whom you can chat till the morning light? I believe you guys won't kiss each other? hold hands and so on? Would you?
Well, talk about soul contact, I cannot say that this is not listed as one of the important elements, because to me, we need a little understanding, not whole....When you get to understand every single part of one another, not just the merits that lie within the persons you are dealing with will appear, even the darkest sides or the ugliest sides that hide deeply within the persons will just show up, whether you wanna let it show or not, or even whether intentionally or unintentionally. Well, understand when it's necessary, avoid it when it's necessary too...Because truths aren't all the times pleasant to all the people who are concerned with. Why know it when you have the choice not to?
Next, about the popular issue "Do unto others like you want others to do unto you"....vice versa-ly, if you do not wish others to do something that you don't like to you, then shall you not do things people don't like to them. For instance, you don't like to be disturbed while you are having a sound sleep, so shall you not disturb others while they are in their sleep, but this is only applicable when both parties share the common interests or thoughts. Very obviously, the main idea of this is to remind people that we shall not be selfish, only center ourselves. We should always look from other sides of the matter. If you seek to be cared, first you seek to care.
Related to the issue mentioned above, what if none of the parties share the common thoughts?For example, you hate to be disturbed( in a sleep), but does that means others think the same too? I doubt so, from my point of view, and as I am, I think that one wouldn't mind to be awaken up by his or her lover, whether to chat or to meet up. Well, of course everyone thinks differently....I believe a lover is someone who will always be there for you no matter what happens and will never bother how troublesome it could ever be. In this case, when both parties do not share the interests in common, the only thing that they can do is compromise.
Speaking of compromising, which we will learn about give and take. You want somebody to care about you, first you must care about others without thinking of what you will get from doing so. Give without calculating how much "profits" you will gain, Receive without calculating how much the "products and services" are worth of. This is the only way to maintain a relationship.
If you fail to secure a relationship, you guys have to work it out yourselves. You are the only one who can pick it up again,not anyone else. One-way-communication never works for a couple, neither does one-way-efforts help.
That's all for today~
Thank you.
With love,
Pen off with,
Destiny's devil a.k.a Sin Wei
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